How to Change Bad Habits and Become a Better You

Can you turn a bad habit into a good habit? Habits, good and bad, can be learnt and unlearnt. They are fixed pathways inside our brain with habit loops of triggers, routines, and rewards. Check out the full story below.

The full story

A habit is a fixed way of thinking that leads to automatic behavior. The benefit is we don’t have to rethink again and again what to do. It just happens and can have good side effects. But a bad habit can also hurt us or hold us back from progressing. Although, like anything, we can learn and unlearn them. But first, let’s try to understand where they come from.

Fixed pathways

Habits are made by experiences creating fixed ways of thinking inside our brain. To explain this, let’s compare what happens inside your brain to what happens on a farm. There is a farmer named Joe, his vegetable garden, the chicken shed, and a mailbox. Every morning farmer Joe first walks to the vegetables, then checks on his chickens, then collects his mail and then walks back to the house. After a few days of this routine, his trace becomes more visible on his farm. After a few months, the trace becomes fixed pathways. Not only on his farm but also inside his brain. 

One night Joe has a magical dream where he discovers his love with all living creatures. The next day he sets all of his chickens free. The funny thing is though, instead of adjusting his behavior, he still walks blindly from the vegetable garden to the chicken shed. The trace on the ground,  and inside Joe’s brain is now just too deep. To leave the path of habit, we have to go down a new road. This takes time and multiple repetitions of our new desired behavior and willpower to keep going.

The habit loop

A habit is often a response to a certain trigger, which is followed by a routine and usually ends with a reward. This is also called a habit loop. Joe’s trigger is the vegetables. As soon as he waters his last tomato, he starts his next routine to automatically walk to the chickens. His reward is to find eggs. And because rewards release dopamine, a neurotransmitter that makes our brain first happy and then hooked, we get stuck and can’t let go anymore.  

Joe’s sister lives in the city. She has a funny habit. Whenever she hears her phone, she automatically looks at the screen. Most of the time it’s just a random irrelevant message. This happens even if something far more important was happening right at that moment. The sound from the phone triggers a routine in the hope of a sweet reward and some of that addictive dopamine.

How to change a habit

To change a habit, journalist Charles Duhigg recommends redesigning the habit loop. Say you like going to the movie theater, but whenever you do, you eat too much of that sweet popcorn. In this case, your trigger is the popcorn stand that you pass by whenever you go to the movies. Your routine is buying that popcorn. And your reward is snacking during the film. To change your habit, you could keep the trigger and keep the reward, but replace the routine. Instead of sweet, get salty popcorn. Later maybe even fruit. 

If a problem gets very serious, remove the trigger. Stop buying movie tickets. If we can’t leave our phone alone, we can turn off all the notifications. And if we have friends that get us into situations that can trigger a bad habit, we can make new friends that don’t. 

Some habits are tricky. Procrastination for example. There is no clear trigger, routine or reward. It just happens. Habits like that can be changed in tiny steps that lead to small rewards. Next time you procrastinate, try to make some short breaks in which you focus.  Your trigger can be the full hour on your clock. Once you hear it, focus on your work even if it is just for 5 minutes. After, reward yourself with a piece of chocolate. The very first day you do that, you will already create some new traces in your brain and the next day some more. After a few weeks, it will be easy to walk down that road.  

Many small steps added together make a big difference over time. After all, we still have our entire life in front of us. And to become successful, good habits are probably our best bet. As the famous poet John Dryden wrote: “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”  Tell us. Have you ever learned or unlearned a habit? Please share your experience in the comments below!  

“I believe this is the best piece of advice I have ever gotten on dealing with procrastination.”

– Musthafa Ali

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Classroom exercise

Build healthy habits together with your class. Ask each student to choose a bad habit that they would like to turn into a good habit. This could be procrastination, poor time management, or anything else they’re struggling with at school. Make a class plan to redesign your habit loops and track your progress as a class. Good luck turning those bad habits into positive behaviours! Let us know how it went in the comments below.

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